[insert instagram superstar name of your choice here] has infected our culture with the idea that the quantity of hours worked daily/weekly/monthly equals the quality of our product/service and the depth of our expertise. 16 hour days, 100 hour weeks, 0 sick days, and 0 vacation days. These are the accolades of hustle porn.We need to realize that work volume does NOT equal work effectiveness.Your brain doesn’t work that way. Its science. Long days should be the exception, not the normal. You’re not delivering your best work on a consistent basis if you’re burning the candle at both ends. You’re only half showing up.Take your calendar back, create boundaries, and build the ideal work conditions into your daily routines. If you’re working long days on a consistent basis, you are either a glutton for punishment and hate life, or you are terrible at time management. Find your flow and don't apologize for it.
The coverup for the above problem is to just remove the boundary altogether and call it “work-life integration”. “I’m always working”, or “My brain is always on”. There. Fixed. Now I can just pass it off that I never stop working and I look innovative and prolific.While I have had the occasional idea hit me in the shower, or had a breakthrough on a problem that I’ve been beating my head against the desk for weeks over… the connection was made because I managed to completely shut my work brain off and focused on being present now. Not striving for what I can do tomorrow. Not replaying that stupid thing I said yesterday. But being here. Now. Feeling the sun on my face. Hearing my kids laugh.Turn your brain off regularly.Stop reading. Stop working. Stop with the input. Stop. Be present and enjoy the moment. You will like work again. You will hustle effectively. You will find your voice. You will find your intuition.
The root of these two problems, I believe, stems from us wanting to control the uncontrollable. We try to force structures to achieve our desired outcome.To over-simplify, there are two paths that we can follow:The first path;“life is happeningTOme”.I am a victim of my circumstances and I feel like I am constantlypushedinto my next step. I am not in control and I resent it.The second path;“life is happeningFORme”.I am not my circumstances so I feel like I am constantly beingpulledforward towards the beautiful unknown.I am not in control and I embrace it.I choose the second way. Why?It causes me to pay attention.Hustle Porn and Work-Life Integration have one major flaw; we stop paying attention. The details slip. Our relationships slip. We dont deliver our best work. Our lives feel monotonous. Repetitive. The remedy? Stop the cycle. Pay attention.
Here’s some ways I’m learning to pay attention:
We dont have to be stuck in the anticipation of the future, and the replay of shame in the past.We can choose to be present. It’s worth it. The world needs a fully present you. And that can start today.Share on facebookShare on twitterShare on linkedinShare on email